[Mega Wolf]

In other words, what I'm saying is, we are two very confused people about what we want, but at least I can admit it. If he's just hurting me by doing stupid stuff like not inviting me to hang out after even though he invites everyone else, then he's not even under the classification of "friend".

[Horatio]

I'm glad you have come to those conclusions. You sound like you have a good grasp of the entire situation. You are headed for college and I am excited to hear your new experiences.

[Mega Wolf]

So, in this past month, a lot has happened. I was staying in contact with the prom date, even would visit him after rehearsal occasionally. Then he went to a show, where he met another member's now-ex-girlfriend. Didn't really know this when he was hugging/kissing/treating me like I was his girlfriend after the show. Couple days later I tried making plans with him on the 4th, he said he couldn't because he had plans with his mom. Then she cancelled, he didn't try to make plans with me after so I just went and had my own fun elsewhere. Well, he made plans with her. Now she's apparently the most amazing girl in the world. I'm slightly hurt by that, but I'll get over it.

My ex has barely contacted me, and I decided to not make the effort either. I've given up on him as a best friend, as I've given up on Ashley, who only talks to me when she doesn't think I'm on good terms with the 26-year-old.

At least the 26-year-old is a good friend, along with another friend keeping me sane.

[Horatio]

Mega Wolf, on 18 July 2010 - 05:36 PM, said:

So, in this past month, a lot has happened. I was staying in contact with the prom date, even would visit him after rehearsal occasionally. Then he went to a show, where he met another member's now-ex-girlfriend. Didn't really know this when he was hugging/kissing/treating me like I was his girlfriend after the show. Couple days later I tried making plans with him on the 4th, he said he couldn't because he had plans with his mom. Then she cancelled, he didn't try to make plans with me after so I just went and had my own fun elsewhere. Well, he made plans with her. Now she's apparently the most amazing girl in the world. I'm slightly hurt by that, but I'll get over it.

My ex has barely contacted me, and I decided to not make the effort either. I've given up on him as a best friend, as I've given up on Ashley, who only talks to me when she doesn't think I'm on good terms with the 26-year-old.

At least the 26-year-old is a good friend, along with another friend keeping me sane.

Sanity... :lol: it's great when you personally have it, but it seems that life is insane. So, might as well join the masses. :D

Love... another of those insane topics. It sounds like the summer heat has gotten to everyone down there. At least you are open to new interests entering your life. That is good. As for the other guys, well, it is their loss. That girl with your prom date, she will lose her 'most amazing girl' status when someone better comes along, so I am glad that you are not letting this bother you too much. Glad you have decided not to try and contact your ex, you don't need that. As for Ashley, she probably disagrees with your being friends with the 26 year old and doesn't want to say as much. Around her, I would not talk about this friend. So, don't give up on her yet, just work around the situation. If she tries to talk about this guy, just say you don't want to talk about it. Perhaps she will take this as a sign that you are not on good terms with him.

I can't wait until you meet the real guy of your dreams. :D

[Mega Wolf]

Yeah, the prom date, according to another friend that's known him longer and actually dated the prom date's exes, apparently falls in and out of love in a matter of like two seconds so, I'm good with knowing that and not dealing with it. I'm a little annoyed because my ex will randomly remember I exist, but generally no, and of course when he started dating the other girl(we were still talking fairly often then), he didn't really mention it to me and I had to find out through social networking? Doesn't really matter now, though, since, again, he's contacted me maybe a couple of times since then.

This other friend, well, it's a little more complicated. She's known him longer than I have by about four years and she's had a massive crush on him forever, she's kind of weird about it(as in he likes something and all of a sudden, she's obsessed with that). Remember that the 26-year-old and I have an on and off romantic interest. So, she's literally one year older than me and when I was 17 she would pull the "you're not old enough" card. Now she doesn't have that card to grumble at me about. So, since she's no longer just nagging me about how I'm too young, she doesn't even bother talking to me despite the "we're best friends" bit we had for a while. When she thinks I'm not on good terms with the 26-year-old, she's on it immediately. The whole he's crazy about me and not her thing seems to be what really bugs her, though she's really closed about it and will never say it.

[Horatio]

As you say, he has no interest in her, yet she is still infatuated with him. Thus the obsessions with whatever it is he likes. Of course, she will not remember him in a few years, and if she does, she will not remember her infatuation. :rolleyes: She may be one year older chronologically, but it sounds like you are far more mature than she. What she needs is to find someone who is interested in her so that she may move on from this infatuation. In the meantime, you don't need anything bringing you down. You have far too much to accomplish this summer. :D

When does school start? Are you required to arrive early for orientation or anything such as that?

[Mushroom_king]

UPDATE: Everything is going awesomely with Parker & I.

[Horatio]

Fantastic!!! It is always great hearing terrific updates!!!

[Mega Wolf]

Horatio, on 18 July 2010 - 10:16 AM, said:

As you say, he has no interest in her, yet she is still infatuated with him. Thus the obsessions with whatever it is he likes. Of course, she will not remember him in a few years, and if she does, she will not remember her infatuation. :rolleyes: She may be one year older chronologically, but it sounds like you are far more mature than she. What she needs is to find someone who is interested in her so that she may move on from this infatuation. In the meantime, you don't need anything bringing you down. You have far too much to accomplish this summer. :D

When does school start? Are you required to arrive early for orientation or anything such as that?

It's funny. Now she's has a boyfriend, a different guy who's 26. Perhaps she just likes guys who are seven years older than her. Totally not the healthiest way to make relationship choices, but alright. haha

My ex broke up with his new girlfriend about a week ago, she was being scary and talking about future already and being in love and whatnot. In addition, she's extremely religious but in the I'll kill you if you drink and I'll break up with you if you kiss me too intensely kind of way. Not that there's a problem with that, it's just that in order for that to be a successful relationship it kinda needs to be mutual.

So, the both of them are back to talking to me, normally, as a friend, as though none of that ever happened. I'll give them both a free pass for that one, I know I'm guilty of having neglected friends in particular situations. xD

So, now that I'm back, I have a completely different set of interested guys to fight off. -.- my life is ridiculous.

School starts Monday, but I have band camp this week in the evenings.

[Horatio]

:lol: Twenty-six... I agree. She could find a guy a bit younger. Perhaps she will figure it out, perhaps not. :lol:

So, now you are okay to talk with because they don't have each other. This scenario happens more than you think. Nice of you to give them a free pass. Wise choice as it may happen that you do the same thing in the future.

Regarding religious beliefs, morals and morays... it is really beneficial to date someone who has like thinking. A very good rule of thumb if you don't want to get hurt is to take a look at the person you are interested in, then examine yourself. Now be honest when you answer this question. Is there anywhere in your mind where you think there are a few things that you could change to make this person the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend? If you answer yes... do NOT date this person. You cannot start a relationship thinking that you are going to change a person for the better. It just doesn't work. In the same light, you cannot change a person to follow your beliefs. You get the idea. Hopefully she will find a guy with like beliefs.

Having a new set of interested guys to fight off should keep your life very interesting. :D

Enjoy band camp and school is starting already????? This summer has flown by. Soon it will be Christmas and I am never ready.

So happy to see your posts today. Things around the boards were getting a little lonely.

[Jesusfreak]

I'm not so concerned about a high school kid liking a 26 year old as I am about a 26 year old dating a high school kid. :unsure:

[Horatio]

Jesusfreak, on 25 August 2010 - 12:29 AM, said:

I'm not so concerned about a high school kid liking a 26 year old as I am about a 26 year old dating a high school kid. :unsure:

Good point!

[Mega Wolf]

Well, she's a year out of high school, but fear not: I haven't missed the point. Oddly her mother is perfectly okay with her having that boyfriend, though the idea of me getting relationship form of close to her daughter was just too much for her(despite the fact that she herself had been pretty much engaged to a girl for several years). Actually, her mother was pushing the older guy interested in me to date her daughter before all of this. Strange, confusing family. -.-'

I must say that the saying "opposites attract" may or may not be true, but just because they attract doesn't mean they're compatible, haha.

Band is a lot of fun and I'm starting to get to know more people. :D

[Horatio]

What a family... and what a mother! :o
I cannot believe that her mother would be okay with the older boyfriend. Perhaps she is looking to get her daughter "married-off" so she is out of the house and off her payroll. Scary and very strange.

Opposites attract... there just might be something to that. :lol:

Good news that you are enjoying band camp. What a fun way to meet new people. :D

[Mega Wolf]

So there's this guy... :P

[Horatio]

Mega Wolf, on 07 September 2010 - 06:55 AM, said:

So there's this guy... :P

...and...

:lol:

[Arkcher]

... and his name is Arkcher and he is a handsome and amazing young man. :V